is “Where are you from?” a relevant question?

"Where are you from?" Seems innocuous enough of a question. For me, and for many who look "different" in the US, inquiring minds don't typically accept the answer. The questions continue: "No really, what country are you from?", followed by "You speak such good English". The intent isn't usually malicious and while simple curiosity is friendly enough, the basis for that curiosity isn't. It denotes the perpetual foreigner syndrome or the "you are an outsider" problem that people of color face, no matter we're first or third generation native-born. (I've never been asked this question by other people of color.) It isn't an issue I lose sleep over these days. If anything, it presents an easy IQ test or some mild amusement. (If I say … [Read more...]