Swim lessons for baby

Just a few dunks and babies' water instincts take over. It was the same with our first when he was a baby. Teaching an infant to swim is fun cuz you see results so quickly. Too bad our older child had many months' break from the water and developed a fear of it. At this point (he's 2 1/2) I guess the best way to teach him is to toss him right in..?! … [Read more...]

a new baby

Mum and Papa are in love. Her Kuya is not. He's less than thrilled with the little bundle, but he's resigned himself to the fact that she's sticking around so he finds ways to bond with her... :-) … [Read more...]

the problem with the way we handled attachment parenting

The above image is from the 21 May 2012 issue of TIME magazine. "Are you mom enough?" - That headline just grabs you, doesn't it, questioning your values and your parenting. One thing we didn't anticipate, in all the planning and discussions about attachment parenting, is the difficulties in teaching our son to put himself to sleep, and to soothe himself back to sleep when he twitches awake in the night - without me. For the past 16 months I was perfectly happy to oblige his every request. I'm quite fortunate to work for an employer who's flexible to the needs of new mothers. There's a nursery at the office so you can nurse or pump during the workday, and until the child is a year old s/he and the nanny can be taken on work trips to … [Read more...]

Healthy baby girl, FREE to whoever can feed her

As a mom, it tears at my heart. It was shocking at the same time that I know it meant a better life for the baby. It's commonplace, but I don't often personally see or hear of it. A woman gave birth to a healthy baby girl around 7am, at a health center where we were field-testing some questionnaires. Usually anyone admitted to a facility is accompanied by throngs of family members, who provide the care to the patient that back home would be done by health staff (eg providing meals, making sure medicines are taken, changing the dressings etc). But there was no one with this very young mother. She was thin, ragged, and very weak. She breastfed the baby a bit, on prompting by the staff, but by evening someone noticed that she hadn't eaten … [Read more...]

building communication skills to help with the Terrible Twos

At 15 months, we're getting a premature taste of the infamous Terrible Two stage. Our little boy's personality seems to be developing along what the books call "spirited" or "strong-willed", even "high-need" (although this last term is politically incorrect anymore). His Khmer nanny is bewildered and amused at the range, intensity and volatility of emotion he exhibits. He can be blissfully happy one second and thrashing about in a full rage for the next two hours. It sets him off when we don't understand what he wants. With redirecting a bit more difficult now we've had to be creative. Thankfully he's developed some decent communication skills early on. The fact that signing and verbalizing are still novel to him at this stage, and that … [Read more...]

Awake training

Lack of sleep - yes, it comes with the territory. (Don't you love how every Jane Dick and Joe peddles this brilliant insight gleefully to new parents, regardless s/he's a parent herself? Like the idea won't logically pop into your head?) As a working mom who luckily likes her job, I'm amazed with how mind and body can actually still function - well, maybe not optimally - on the piddly rest I'm sometimes able to scrape out of my nights. (Sleep-training our little boy? I think he's got me the other way around.) When baby wakes me up to help him go back to sleep - and then I can't get myself back to sleep, it's the one opportunity I have to catch up on my rss feeds, in bed in the dark. (Thank god for tablets!) So during these sleepless … [Read more...]

from Diapers to Durians

...speaking of pungent fruits.. It isn't durian season, but Thai varieties are available all year so we can get them here. I had a craving for it a few weeks ago and the little boy got in on the fun. Yep, he's had a taste and seems to like it. … [Read more...]

Surviving a long haul flight with a 10 month old

Last month the most direct route from our house in Phnom Penh to my parents' doorstep in NYC took 29 hours. We took two flights: Phnom Penh - Hong Kong for three hours, then Hong Kong - JFK for around 16 hours. It's a long time on the road with an infant. Our baby practically lives in a suitcase, and has been on numerous flights since he was born - always as a lap child (at $1520 a seat on this flight, I think we're going to take him as a lap child as long as we can!), so he's used to flying and is generally manageable on flights. Nevertheless, I'm always anxious before the trip and packing "his" carry-on is de-stressing me. We're preparing for our trip back this weekend -- yes, after I'd finally adjusted to the time zone and the cold … [Read more...]