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gray hair is cool

1 April 2010 by Nathalie Abejero 5 Comments

Several women in my family went prematurely gray, and since they were not slaves to the beauty industry I knew from an early age those strands which society hates so much would pop out soon. Sure enough, at the age of 12, they started. Remarks were plenty, but none (that got to my ears) were patronising about my choice to leave it be.

(Frankly, the thought of that carcinogenic sludge on my hair or skin was less the attractive option than staying salt-n-pepper, never mind the time sink of perpetual coloring sessions.)

Here in Southeast Asia, with the role of women as they are (subservient, servile, invisible unless spoken to), the pressure to look good is greater, which explains why the taboo of gray hair is so much worse than it is back home in the US. There’s hardly a salon visit here in which I don’t shock the stylist with my natural grays and scolded that I should color my hair so that I “look good” and make my husband happy.

It’s like the conversations with my male Khmer friends acquaintances: “What do you mean your wife has no interests?” “You don’t know how to cook?”

Sigh. Sometimes there’s such charm in ignorance.

Needless to say, those stylists got an earful on how this chic-tica views such advice and why they won’t get my business again – but only after the cut and style was finished!

So the times they are a-changin’, and goin’ gray has become the vogue thing in the fashionista world. As uncommon as it is for caucasian women in the spotlight to be comfortable getting photographed with their gray, there are even fewer Asian women mellowing to this route. (Ping me if you see any, I’ll post their photos to replace the ones above, beautiful as they are!)

Photos are from Oprah’s Gray Hair Bible and IndiaInfo’s Gray Hair to Age Backwards?. How is gray hair not seen as sexy and smart? I say flaunt it. Here are my locks:

Filed Under: Life Tagged With: beauty, gray hair, grey hair, hair, Southeast Asia, women

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  1. nabejero says

    19 August 2012 at 17:38

    Hi Jennifer, Thanks for stopping by :-)

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  2. jennifer says

    12 June 2012 at 11:52

    I think your hair is gorgeous.

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  3. B Ferguson says

    14 June 2011 at 01:55

    Your experience in the salon reminds me of my Korean-American friend and her similar experience in South Korea. In South Korea it has become the norm for women to have plastic surgery done on their eyelids to give them the appearance of having double eyelids. My friend, needless to say, has not had this surgery. Now every time she visits family in South Korea, she is constantly pressured to have it done.

    I agree that gray hair is finally coming around to being more socially acceptable for women. At least in Western countries that is. And there is no doubt that a well-maintained head of gray hair can and should look sexy on a woman.

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  1. You’re Beautiful It’s True | Middle Brick Road says:
    20 March 2012 at 00:16

    […] on me just yet.  The key word though is temporary, the truth is that when it does change, I will wear my gray hair with pride! For now, I am living in the moment appreciating that I still get carded for simple purchases like […]

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  2. Surgeon Thailand says:
    11 November 2011 at 23:53

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