Welcome to the April 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Family Pastimes
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared stories and wisdom about family pastimes.
Our preschooler tried a bite of vindaloo. He’s trying to like it, but his face blanched and he tried to wipe the heat off his tongue with a napkin. I slid a glass of mango lassi his way. Eating out remains a treat we indulge in, and we regularly bring the kids. It entails lots of advance notice and build-up (reward system). Our older one loves the novelty of a restaurant meal so we use that. Our agreement? He can join us on these special nights out if he will try every dish that comes to the table. It’s ok to dislike something, but only after trying it. (Luckily we work and live in a region – outside the West! – whose cultures are extremely kid-friendly; when they were babies waitstaff even held them so we could eat, and gave them back with the bill!)
Photo: Khmer breakfast foods (L-R) chicken rice, rice porridge and beef stew with noodle. The plate of greens is for the stew.
Before kids, we were perpetually exploring – touring our city, traveling, trying different cuisines and experimenting with new recipes and pairings.
But those days of discovery have downshifted, because predictability is key to keeping the peace. Itchy feet are grounded, spontaneity’s swapped for routines, and flavors are kicked down a notch. Further, one child is a bit spirited, and with the territory comes high sensitivity to change. There are some slow years ahead.
Kids adopt the level of open-mindedness and worldview they’re exposed to by environment and hands-on parenting. But what else can we do to cultivate curiosity for the unfamiliar and nurture a passion for travel, especially at very young ages?
For us, food’s the ticket for cultural exposure. It started with transitioning to solids. The standard advice wasn’t easy. Making and hauling jars of pureed food around Cambodia in this tropical heat took too much effort. So the kids went from breast milk to gumming chunks of fruit and vegetable, whatever was in season, like the local kids do. They were exposed to a variety of unusual produce this way, and their palate for freshness was established early. It’s a start.
But developing that nomadic palate?
Thankfully, one of the kids is an indiscriminate nibbler and game to try anything she sees her parents eating. But her sibling? He loves carbs, with everything scraped clean off – sauces, toppings, and spreads. So he trained us well in sneaking things into these staples for subtle flavor – turmeric, melted brie, pureed eggplant. Sometimes it works.
We make an effort to bring the little boy on market or grocery shopping trips. He chooses some vegetables and then he’s enlisted in meal prep. He gets simple tasks like cutting the vegetables. It’s slow, and it gets messy, but because they’re involved in the process, both kids chow on the raw ingredients. And since they “help” make it they’re more inclined to try the finished dish even if it’s “strange”. It’s been effective.
There are also big successes with eating out. The little boy was suspicious of the Moroccan harira and tagine, so he filled up on couscous and kefta. He gave the traditional Mexican dish chilaquiles a pass, but devoured the freshly-made tortillas with salsa and drank horchata in between bites of tres leches. He likes Filipino adobo and kare-kare, and Singapore’s trademark pepper crab. We’ve even gotten him to try if not appreciate ugali, mohinga and durian. And when there’s good wine or beer he gets to dip a finger in it.
These are small steps, and immature palates seem to be growing adaptable. The great thing about food is that it’s a foot in the door to broader exploration as they grow. Food is a cultural expression, and a great topic for the dinner table.
It helps to have toy airplanes, maps and globes around. It isn’t much effort to chat up our meal’s geography, especially for their level of understanding. Like why stews (like borscht) or preserved meats (like lutefisk) are popular in cold climates. And why sashimi is common in an island country. We talk about fiery Thai dishes, and how its signature chili originated on the other side of the planet in the Americas.
These discussions seem sophisticated, but there’s context for countries that family and friends are from, or that they’ve been to, or cultures they read about in their books. Even at such a young age, the dots connect – including ones we hadn’t thought of. We’re frequently reminded to stop treating our precocious preschooler like a kid. So recently we’ve embarked on a project with him to write and publish a dual-language picture book of his favorite Khmer foods, for his little sister. We’ll see how this project goes…
It’s a struggle to fit travel in these days. Food exposure pushes their limits and fosters curiosity and a sense of adventure. Someday we’ll hit the road again. But for now the journey begins with modest steps. Besides, a good relationship with food ultimately has lifetime benefits aside from facilitating cultural exposure – for everyone in the family.
On this theme of food as a cultural experience for kids – check out this great post and carnival blogging series, Around the World with Pancakes: Apfelpfannkuchen (German Apple Pancakes: To Bake or Not to Bake). The blog carnival is Around the World in 12 Dishes.
And food-themed books that we’ve enjoyed (links to Goodreads reviews): Cora Cooks Pancit
How to Make an Apple Pie and See the World
Visit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- 8 Reasons to Go Camping with Your Kids — The weather is warmer, and it is time to think about taking a break. As you plan your family vacation, Mandy of Living Peacefully with Children, guest posting at Natural Parents Network, explains why you should consider hitting the trails with your kids.
- Crafty Cohorts — Kellie at Our Mindful Life enjoys crafting with her kids, and the skills they are learning.
- 10 Hobbies For Families With Young Children — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama knows that finding hobbies families can do together (with young children in tow) isn’t always the easiest of feats. She has compiled a list of 10 family friendly hobbies that children of all ages can enjoy and that won’t break the bank!
- Helping Himawari — Sophelia’s family at Sophelia’s Adventures in Japan share a passion for helping when a dog is abandoned at the nearby elementary school.
- The ‘Art’ of Having Fun — Marija Smits shares some thoughts on family art and fun.
- How we made our own Family Day — Lauren at Hobo Mama shares how her family celebrates the best day of the week, a chance for connection and adventure and endless possibilities: Family Day!
- Our Family Hobby — Survivor talks about how animal husbandry has become her family’s favorite hobby at Surviving Mexico Adventures and Disasters.
- Sowing the Seeds of Passions — Christy at Eco Journey In The Burbs wonders if her interests, and her husband’s, will shape her children’s passions as they mature.
- Harry Potter Potions Party — One of the best activities Dionna at Code Name: Mama has ever done with her family has been a Harry Potter Potions Party. She is sharing the resources she used to create their potion recipes, the ingredients and tools they experimented with, and the recipes themselves. Feel free to use and adapt for your own budding wizards and witches!
- Pastimes Have Passed Me By — Kati at The Best Things takes a new perspective on projects that never get done.
- Food as a cultural experience for preschoolers — Nathalie at Kampuchea Crossings finds that food is a good way to engage her preschoolers on a journey of cultural discovery.
- 10 Reasons I Love Thrifting With My Children — That Mama Gretchen has always enjoyed shopping, but with a growing family she’s become more frugal and thus, her little ones are now in tow on her thrift store adventures.
- Pastime with Family vs Family Pastime — You can share lots of pastimes with your family, but Jorje of Momma Jorje discovered a family pastime was much more pleasant for sharing.
Marie-Claude Leroux says
Growing up, all I ate were carbs as well (and no toppings except cheese), and now I’ll try nearly everything, in my pursuit of cultural exploration while being unable to travel. Food is such a tangible expression of culture and environment, and I love how much you’re introducing these facets to your kids, at such a young age.
Thanks for including my pancake post – it’s actually part of our family’s trying new foods in the form of pancakes, and I occasionally link up to Around the World in 12 Dishes – indeed, a great blogging carnival. If you have any recommendations for Cambodian pancakes, please pass along! :)
The most pancake type food we have here is a roti, sold as street food. And of course the French colonial legacy includes crepes at specialty restaurants..
Looking forward to more interesting posts from you!
Momma Jorje says
Just… Wow! You are amazing! I would love to travel and I love to be adventurous with food, but not everyone in my household is agreeable – by a long shot! So I try to get out with friends on occasion to try something new or to appreciate a favorite. I always invite the kids to eat what I eat, even if they didn’t like it the first 3 times they tried it. :)
Hi – my son’s picky eating makes me nervous! So we expose him as much as possible to new things, anything to make him curious about an unfamiliar culture. Hopefully in the long-term that beefed-up curiosity overrides his suspicion of new foods.
Erin Luong says
I really appreciated your post. We are a Canadian family spending the year in Japan. I have noticed many positives to exposing my children (8 and 5) to a new culture this year, including their ability to `try` new foods. The school lunch program here also helps as the chidren are exposed to many traditional dishes which I may not know how to prepare. When they watch other children trying these dishes out they are more motivated to taste them too.
We’ve been working abroad this past decade, and debated going back because of the kids. But the more we weigh the pros and cons, there’s no doubt they benefit greatly from growing up abroad!
You’re absolutely right that the Western culture makes dining out with children more difficult – we’ve gotten some dirty looks :/ But, we keep trying as I really want my littles to learn good manners and patience. We’re in a pickier phase right now, but I’m hopeful that helping to cook and little bites will continue to expand their palates. Loved this post!
@Sophelia @Gretchen – We get a bit of a shock with how Western culture is towards kids during visits home. Some people and establishments are downright hostile!
What a lovely post! Here in Japan, restaurants are so much more welcoming of children than in Australia. Tiger loves to order his own food from the menu, and the wait-staff are always kind a patient, even when he is struggling to read unfamiliar words.
Lauren @ Hobo Mama says
This is a great post — thanks for sharing! I have one of those kids who prefers grains with everything scraped off — that bit made me laugh. :) We’ve also been encouraging taking a taste, even a lick, and giving a thumbs-up or thumbs-down, so it remains under his control. Our other kiddo is more adventurous, and I hope the future will show them both expanding their palates! My husband and I also like exploring new cultures through food, so it would be nice to share that with them more fully.
I’ve put those books on hold at the library — thanks for the recommendations!
Hi – Picky eaters are such a challenge! And we’ve found some great culturally diverse books for kids through independent publisher http://www.LeeandLow.com or @@LEEandLOW, if you want more recs :-)
Dionna @ Code Name: Mama says
Love this, mainly because my 6yo sounds much like your little carb-lover. But he is fascinated with other cultures, and he has proven wiling at times to try other things, if only for novelty’s sake. I needed this kick in the pants to try more. Perhaps we’ll design a co-op class for the fall around different cultures :)
Hi Dionna, that class sounds great. I’ll keep an eye out in case you update about it on your blog! Childrens’ curiosities are so strong – channeling it without stifling it is tough!